If you are a married T-Girl who has not yet discovered any biological or emotional need to become a fulltime woman, and you care about preserving your marriage and family, the hardest thing for you will be to decide whether or not to tell your wife or significant other about "The Girl". I did, before we were married.

The second hardest thing, if you decide to tell her, is to maintain a balance between 'The Girl" and family. It's very easy to retreat into 'The Girl" if you are an ordinary man with sometimes overwhelming responsibilities. The "Ugly Brother" gets all the problems and "The Girl" gets the care free outings, the new clothes and scads of admirers telling her how pretty she is....hardly a fair division of labor...:) Just keep this in mind on those occasions where you start tilting too far to the one side. It's really not a fair fight. Don't forget the commitments and responsibilities you have.

I realize that this is an easier said than done philosophy. You may think this a Pollyana-ish point of view if, like me, you are being pulled deeper and deeper into femininity by the magnetic-like hold of transgenderism. Like many of you, I too struggle mightily with this. Balancing is the hardest thing we part time girls do.

I try to keep my sanity by continuing to enjoy the male activities of my life, spending time with family and by thinking of myself as one person instead of two separate people by indulging in female activities I enjoy (like feminine grooming, watching fashion shows on TV) even if I am unable to present as Janine. I hope you find something that works for you!